I have some people in my life, important players who I love, that are very free in giving me advice. A phrase that makes my heart sink & my stomach turn is- “Stephen, you know you really should…” As an actor, I am good at taking direction. I am a total goody-2-shoes at my job, but other than that, I really hate being told what to do. This is a personality flaw that was cemented by the time I was 4 years old, putting me at odds with teachers, principals, guidance counselors, bosses, friends, buddies, lovers & a Husband.
That being said, I am not too proud to ask for help, but mostly I look to the popular song for advice. My favorite advice song of all time is Que Sera, Sera. As a young child, I would play the Doris Day (the most underrated of vocalists) version on my parents Hi-Fi & sing & dance to this classic without changing the gender specific lyrics. Why was it no surprise when I came out 20 years later? Here is my list of the top 20 other favorite advice songs:
. Que Sera, Sera (Whatever Will Be Will Be) - Doris Day . You Can't Hurry Love - the Supremes . Don't Sleep In The Subway - Petula Clark . Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen) - Baz Lurhman . Whistle While You Work - the Seven Dwarfs . Don't Eat The Yellow Snow - Frank Zappa . Don't Talk To Strangers - Rick Springfield . If You Love Somebody Set Them Free - Sting . You Always Hurt The One You Love - Mills Brothers . All You Need Is Love - the Beatles . Pick Up The Pieces - AWB (Average White Band) . What The World Needs Now Is Love - Jackie DeShannom . You Should Be Dancing - Bee Gees . Let's Go Crazy - Prince . Go Your Own Way - Fleetwood Mac . Gotta Serve Somebody - Bob Dylan . Let My Love Open The Door - Pete Townsend . Did You Ever Have To Make Up Your Mind? - The Lovin' Spoonful . Don't Take Your Guns To Town - Johnny Cash . Express Yourself - Madonna . Take A Fool's Advice - Nat King Cole
I am a mid-20th century gay man still trying to get a handle on how to live life with meaning. I live in Portland Oregon with my husband/partner of 32+ years & the terriers: Lulu & Junior.
As an actor I have been in over 150 full stage productions, 12 films/TV, over 50 commercials & voice overs.
Our home & garden in Seattle (1981-2001) were published several times & were featured in a "coffee table" book- Flea Market Decorating by Meredith Press. That garden was on the Seattle Art Museum's Tour Of Artists' Gardens in 1999.
We moved to Portland in a fit of middle age anxiety in 2001.
We spend our time & money working on our house & garden in a working class bungalow, in a working class neighborhood.
The old-ball-& chain & I are thought to be a little nutty. ME:
cocktail drinker, tree hugger & seeker.
Kinsey 6, Myers-Briggs ENFJ, Capricorn/Snake