I am a rather formal person & etiquette is not lost on me. This is a general inquiry, but I am going to give a concrete example. I met someone in 2009 that I liked a great deal. This gentleman is smart, talented, interesting, funny, & the Husband approves & likes him too. I have let this person know that meeting him, getting to know him, & sharing some of our experiences & opinions with him was a lovely thing. My dilemma? Is it bad manners to mention that you think someone is sexy/hot/desirable? Is it bad etiquette to mention to a new acquaintance that you think they are really swell in every way, you want to stay in touch & possibly become friends, & oh, by the way… you find them very fuckable? I am not talking about actually putting the moves on the person, but just adding that you find them engaged in your libido, & that is just another point on the check off list of traits you like about them?
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Aww, you're sexy to man!
ReplyDeleteI think it's proper to let this man know you want to be friends and some of the reasons why to establish a friendship. Who wouldn't be flattered to be complimented and asked to be friends?
ReplyDeleteAs the friendship evolves, you can share more. Then one day over drinks you can tell him how fuckable you thought he was and is.
I agree with Sean. It's not odd or improper. It's just human nature. :) Develop the friendship and then later on you'll be more comfortable talking about other things. You'll both laugh about it.
ReplyDeleteJust remember you have a husband that loves you, too. :)
I agree with Sean!
ReplyDeleteHell no that ain't bad manners. That is just life my friend, and we can't help some feelings or when they develop. That's all this ho has to say.
ReplyDeleteIt's only OK if it's me. Otherwise, no. (LOL)
ReplyDeleteI think I agree with Sean as well. And gosh, whoever he is, is a lucky man :)
ReplyDeleteHmm, I don't see an issue with telling someone you think they are attractive or hot, and even that they might be your type, as long as they understand it is meant as a compliment, not an invitation. Hell, I've told str8 men I thought they were hot, and think they enjoyed it.
ReplyDeleteIt depends on the person. I like Sean's comment. I would feel very uncomfortable if a new friend said something like that to me, but I suspect that has more to do with my insecurities and psychopathic idiosyncrasy than with matters of etiquette.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with Howard. You can as long as its not an invitation. Just make sure that your hubby knows what you think and are going to say to him, so that there is no Jealousy going on.
ReplyDeletewtf?
ReplyDelete...the husband